This is something to be prepared for. I know a few people who were married to someone abroad, and when they came home, their partners were not willing to relocate.
I hope that doesn’t happen to you, but it does. I can’t tell you why. I can only say that I have experience, and there were good reasons for this. I wouldn’t do it again. So, these are my suggestions, from my experience and from talking to people who have been there.
Deciding to move abroad for or with your partner can be intimidating for most people.
It may toss many curve balls your way, and you never seem adequately prepared for the big move. Nonetheless, you know it is the right thing to do, and you are strong enough to overcome the obstacles that will inevitably arise.
If, on the other hand, your heart is already set on leaving, preparing and establishing realistic expectations are critical. Of course, there are certain things that you cannot compromise on in a relationship, but you should anticipate that the move will put all of your skills to the test!
Keep your mind open
Maintaining an open mind is the most critical thing to consider while going overseas for love. You and your partner may have discussed a short relocation or just a “pit-stop” in a nation before embarking on larger adventures together. However, the truth is that transitory circumstances often become permanent or at the very least increase in duration. If you and your partner had already agreed to relocate after a few months, watching things shift quickly may be a major hurdle to overcome.
Instead, keeping your mind open to many possibilities allows you to find yourself more prepared to face any last-minute turn of events.
Be ready to miss your family and friends
It is natural to miss one’s family and friends. Anyone who has relocated to another nation, for whatever reason, may have bouts of homesickness from time to time. When that emotion chooses to sneak up on you, there is nothing you can do to prevent it from happening. If you have planned ahead of time, you may find that you are more equipped to deal with the difficult situations.
Keeping a cupboard filled with all the things that remind you of home and your mama’s number at hand can be hugely helpful in the case of a homesickness attack.
Some tips for surviving this mood include:
- Focus on the positives
- Speak about it with your partner
- Focus on making new friends and experiences in the new city
- Don’t call home every day, as this can prevent you from living your new life
- Start a diary
- Allow yourself to be comfortable on your “bad mood” days
Legalities and Language
While moving to another nation or city for love is one of the most exciting things you can do in your life, you cannot overlook the legal ramifications. Indeed, you may need to discuss with your partner the possibility of them requiring a spouse visa to reside and work in your new location. These may seem like onerous things to consider, yet they are at the heart of every significant action.
Last but not least, knowing a bit more about the language and customs of your new nation before you relocate may help you make new friends and get employment much more quickly than you would think. While it may seem to be an excessive element to consider, it may assist you in getting back on your feet and starting over in a new life in as little as a few months!