Men should make an effort to date attractive women. That makes sense, but what if the guy is really shy?
It’s common for women to get fed up when the quiet guy they like never takes the initiative in a romantic relationship. Dealing with a timid guy might be difficult, but if you have the confidence to make the first move, you might be able to help him overcome his shyness and become more outgoing. Is the individual you’re dealing with the timid type? Some suggestions are provided below.
Do not take his shyness personally
It is not your fault if a guy is shy; it has nothing to do with you. Do not assume that he is uncomfortable only with you or that there is anything wrong with you since a shy guy is naturally uncomfortable with women. Do not think that he is only uncomfortable with you or that something is wrong with you.
Be assertive, but not overbearing. Don’t talk too much. A shy guy does not want you to talk too much, as he doesn’t feel comfortable and likes to keep the conversation going himself. Don’t be assertive and try to argue with him or talk too much.
His timidity is only a characteristic of his temperament, which in no way reflects how he thinks or feels about you. If you start taking the shyness of the guy you’re dealing with personally and start believing there must be something wrong with you, it may make dealing with the shy guy very challenging.
Learn how to engage him in a conversation
You could wait forever for a shy guy to start a conversation, so you have to learn how to make him engage in a conversation. It requires guts to initiate a conversation with an extremely shy guy, but if you really like him, it is best to try than not to try at all. Before taking a step forward and initiating a conversation, find a common interest between the two of you so that you know what to talk about. Maybe you both love music, or you both love a particular hobby.
Ask questions about his feelings. A shy guy usually feels alone and does not know what he should be doing or thinking about. If you want to be a part of his life, you must show that you care and that you are there for him.
Once there is a common interest, engaging him to talk or have a conversation with you is easier. It may take a while for a shy guy to engage in a face-to-face conversation so in this case, social media, chat apps and text messaging can be very helpful to start the conversation and get to know each other well before facing each other. No matter the medium, the most essential thing in dealing with a shy guy is to help him talk and open up to you.
Shy guys need time to open up, so don’t expect them to be chatty and outgoing from the get-go. Give them space and allow them to come out of their shell at their own pace. Dealing with a shy guy requires patience. Do not expect fast progress. If he managed to start texting you, do not pressure him to make frequent calls. Take things slowly.
Do not rush him but provide him with a comfortable environment and make him feel that he is free to express himself when he’s ready. Do not pressure him or force him but let things happen naturally.
Respect his privacy
A shy guy can be very private and it is a big leap for him to step forward and share things with you so if he managed to accomplish that, respect his shared feelings. It is best to keep those things for yourself. He may not appreciate hearing that you shared those things he confided to you with your family and friends.
It is important to gain his trust and confidence for him to continue opening himself to you. Dealing with a shy guy requires you to respect his shared feelings and privacy.
Make him feel good about himself
A shy guy lacks confidence, maybe because he has insecurities or does not know his worth. In dealing with a shy guy, it is important to help him boost his confidence. Make him feel that he matters. If you need help on something he is good at, do not hesitate to ask for help from him. But it is important that you are sincere and not only pretending that you need help just to make him feel good.
The number one rule you should follow when trying to get a guy to like you is to be friendly. If you’re not friendly, you’re either boring or you’re a bitch. Either way, guys are not going to want to stick around. However, guys can’t help but like you if you’re friendly. You’ll automatically start to get attention, which will give you the confidence to start getting to know him.
Sincerely praise him and remember even the little things he shared with you. Let him know that shyness is something that can be defeated and let him feel that he is not alone because people, including you, can be shy too once in a while.
Dealing with a shy guy can be a challenge, but if you know what to do, you can help this guy go out of his shell and enjoy dating.