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7 Golden Rules of Texting in Relationships

We all know that communication in a long-distance relationship is essential. But how do you manage to communicate effectively with your girlfriend so that it does not seem needy, boring or unattractive?

In this article, you’ll learn seven golden rules of texting that you can use to avoid neediness and become more attractive to your girlfriend.

1. Rule of reciprocity

In a long-distance relationship, guys can easily fall into the need trap by spamming their girlfriends with many text messages. And in my experience, neediness is one of the biggest killers of attraction in a relationship, especially if it comes from a man.

If you are the one that sends her more texts than she sends you, then make sure to either cut down on the number of texts that you send her daily and encourage her to send you more texts.

2. Understand how to use emojis

Emojis are an interesting way to convey emotions through text. For example, a kiss emoji means that you really like someone. Texting is a very natural way to share these kinds of sentiments. Emojis can be used to compliment someone or let your partner know how much you care. However, a wink emoji is not a substitute for a face-to-face conversation, and you should never use a wink emoji as a way to flirt with someone. You should not also use a wink emoji to get a friend to agree with you.

3. The Tennis Rule

Texting is a great way to stay on the top of her mind during the day, but you have to avoid sending her too many texts and looking needy. You want to be sending her one text and then letting her text you back before you send her another text.

This way, you throw the ball in her field and wait for her to throw the ball back. And, of course, you use the ” Send and Forget ” rule to avoid freaking out.

4. Use diversity.

What I mean by “using diversity”, is that you want to be sending her different types of texts instead of the same old “love texts” that you’ve been sending her for the past 2 months.

For example, you could be sending her sexy texts, funny texts, teasing texts, mysterious texts, updates about your activities etc. So that you keep things more diverse, so avoiding predictability and make your text communication more fun.

Also, try to be a bit more spontaneous about texting by sending her texts at different times of the day instead of a text around the same time every day.

5. Keep your text messages polite

Texting your relationship is not the place to be crude. It’s important to keep your conversations clean and respect your partner’s boundaries. If your partner tells you that a friend gave her a phone number, don’t text to ask for it. That’s a conversation that is better made in person or over the phone.

6. The 15 Minutes Rule

Texting has become addictive, and this is why people start to text all the time. You should only send one or two text messages at a time. If you send a long message, it is possible that it could cut short your relationship. You might lose their attention, and this might lead to you feeling lonely.

Do not be too eager to answer her texts back, but wait a few minutes before doing that. It could be after 10 – 15 – 30 minutes and sometimes a few hours later.

Of course, you do not want to make a habit out of this, but doing that 50% of time will make you more attractive to her. And there are two reasons for that: 1) now she’ll be the one to be waiting for your texts, so very excited about receiving them. 2) You will not look needy.

7. Never have text fights!

Texts are a very impersonal way of communication and can be very easily misinterpreted. If you’re having a tense communication while texting each other, then better postpone the communication until you’ll be able to talk on the phone, or even better on Skype.

And that’s the best choice because else, you have to guess what’s being said behind the words; text fighting last so much longer than a regular fight, and then you also have the fight saved on the phone, and that things are said in anger are not the best things to be re-read again later on.

Last Words

Now, I do not want to be too dogmatic here. Of course, all these rules have their exceptions, and given the circumstances, you could send her 5 texts in a row, have a text fight, or wait for a quick reply from her.

My goal here is to give you 7 rules of thumb that you should keep in mind when texting your girlfriend, to have more effective text communication, avoid being needy and keep your girlfriend attracted to you. But how you use these rules will depend only on the circumstances and on your own judgment.

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