Any contact with a woman requires a high level of sexual tension. It is the interaction’s energy or charge. Its use is deceptively subtle yet very effective.
Sexual tension is conceptualised in a variety of ways in the seduction community. These include arrogant bantering and flirting, blatant sexual desire masked by artificial boundaries, the term “sexy” to communicate sexual intent, and, of course, the classic Speed Seduction technique – complicated linguistic patterns designed to implant sexual ideas in a woman’s head.
Certain methods are superior to others and may significantly enhance the quality and success of your pickups. I like a more straightforward definition of sexual tension since it is based on genuine sexual desire and is a very natural method of amplifying the stress felt by the woman. Sexual tension is defined as the existence of a regulated state of arousal in the absence of overt sexual desire.
When the moment is perfect, I build sexual tension by directing my sexual desire toward my lady while refraining from making overt sexual overtures. I maintain mystery and uncertainty, which maintains her attention on me and steers her thoughts into sexual ideas. My condition has been transmitted to her, and she has now been aroused. After that, logistics are just a question of leadership and compliance methods.
Controlled Sexual Arousal State
There are two reasons why a sexually aroused state is so important. First, women love sex. A sexual man is valuable to a woman because he can give her pleasure. Women are attracted to men who are attracted to women.
The second reason is more subtle. There is a phenomenon I call “state transfer.” Have you ever been in a bad mood, and a friend came by in a really great, exciting mood? Your mood probably changed, and you found yourself smiling and cheering up in spite of yourself.
How do you feel around someone when they are nervous?
You feel nervous too! Think of a time you were with a woman, say a girlfriend, and she was obviously very horny and sexually aroused, but you weren’t doing anything sexual. You probably got excited because she was excited. This is how humans hypnotise each other in everyday life – we transfer our states to each other.
Can you see where this is going?
State transfer may occur on a metaphysical, psychic energy level. But more so, a state is transferred with non-verbal sub communication. When you are turned on, your voice subtly (or not so subtly) reflects your state, as do your facial expressions, eye contact, manner of touching, body language, and a million other little things too numerous to try to micromanage.
How to have a controlled arousal state
It’s not as simple as just being turned on, although that’s part of it. State control is vital – if you are nervous or uncomfortable, you won’t be able to get sexually aroused. (State control is not only vital in seduction, but in life. It allows you to stay calm, generally happy, and more productive. In spiritual terms, it is sometimes called “staying centred” or having “peace of mind.”)
The best way to stay calm and comfortable in social situations is through experience. Socialise more, go out (sober), and get experience talking to women. Meditation, a good diet, avoiding harmful indulgences like drug use, television, the internet (porn), and regular exercise all help.
For the “getting turned on” part, raising your testosterone level will have an incredible effect. Natural ways to increase testosterone include heavy weight training (squats, deadlifts, bench press, etc.), zinc supplementation, eating lots of animal protein, and, if possible, regular sex.
You already know how to get aroused. During your interactions with women, simply focus on what she’d look like naked, imagine having sex with her, or whatever fun little thoughts you want to entertain.
Creating Sexual Tension
The tension component is really an extension of the second level of the Attraction Hierarchy – Intrigue. Intrigue can be described in two ways. It can be seen as a lack of over-validating a woman or getting her attention fixated on you by being ambiguous and holding back information.
These are flip sides of the same coin. Applied to sexual tension, we enter a sexual state but don’t verbalise our desire. If we did, she may like it or not like it, but now she knows where she stands – she is validated. That isn’t bad, but it’s not optimal. She has you figured out and knows you want her, which gives her the option of forgetting about you and focusing elsewhere. You are “solved.”
Another key point about verbalising sexual interest is that it puts her in a position where she has to agree to it. She must consciously admit that this is leading to sex. Again, that’s not bad but is not optimal and sometimes can create a mental block in her mind for getting isolated from you.
Imagine sitting in a room with a closed treasure chest in front of you. Then you open it and find gold coins. When is the chest more interesting? True, the gold coins are great, but there’s no longer a mystery. You can even forget about the gold coins to watch TV or call a friend for a while because those coins aren’t going anywhere. But before you know what’s in there, that chest preoccupies your mind and keeps your attention. Once you have mastered that concept, you’re well on your way.