There is no doubt in my mind that you have been sitting there contemplating how you may finally convince your partner to have a relationship with you.
In any case, I assume you’ve had no luck thus far? For starters, here’s a harsh reality check for you: Nearly every man who swears he doesn’t want a relationship ends up getting into one. There’s no way around it.
But the person he will be into a relationship with may or may not be you. You see when a guy says that he doesn’t want a relationship with what he is indirectly saying is that he doesn’t want a relationship with you. Let’s discuss this in a bit more detail…
If he wants a relationship with you, there wouldn’t be any excuses…
If he has a clear mind and really wants a relationship with you then no excuse in the world will be big enough to stop him. And at the same time if he is unclear and isn’t sure about whether he really wants a relationship with you or not then every excuse will seem really big.
When a guy starts looking for more excuses to be with you instead of looking for reasons to be with you then it’s really obvious that he doesn’t want a relationship with you.
But what if he changes his mind?
Well, we have already established that if a guy really wants to be with you, he won’t make any excuses.
If he isn’t ready for it right now, when do you feel he will ever be ready? And at the same time, how long are you willing to wait? How long are you willing to handle the confusion, pain and frustration of not knowing when he is going to make up his mind finally?
If things aren’t getting better, they’re only getting worse…
In the process of thinking that maybe he might change his mind someday many women just stick around anyway and let things run the way, they are running.
But do you know what actually happens in the process? Things actually end up getting worse. When you want a relationship but he doesn’t, you have two people with completely different goals. Therefore you will push him towards your goal and he will try to push you towards his. And in the process, you will only experience more arguments, disagreements and frustration. Eventually, you will realize that he isn’t going to change his mind and is always going to be confused about you.
And that would be the time when you will feel the need to let him go.
Always remember that…
You can’t change his mind, or persuade him into wanting a relationship with you…
And the sooner you get this the better it’s going to be for you. Don’t sit around thinking that someday you will be able to convince him to want a relationship with you. If he is scared of a relationship right now, what makes you say that he will be less scared in the future?
You can’t make him want a relationship and at the same time you can’t convince or persuade him either. It just won’t work, and the harder you will try, the more distant he will get from you.
So what do I do now?
So what can you do? Do you really have too many options? Here are two things you can do –
– Stick around and hope he will change his mind.
– Let him go on good terms.
I would suggest that it will be better to let him go momentarily. Because if he really wants you, then he will come back for sure.
But if he doesn’t, then you were with the wrong person to begin with. Always remember – There is another person out there who will be more than happy to be with you. So go find that person instead of wasting the precious moments of your life waiting for someone who doesn’t even want a relationship.
Points to remember
– If he doesn’t want a relationship, then he is indirectly saying that he doesn’t want a relationship with you. He isn’t saying he doesn’t want a relationship at all because someday he will be in a relationship with someone else for sure.
– Don’t wait for him to change his mind about you; if he hasn’t made up his mind already, what is he really waiting for?
– Cut him off and let him miss you. Let him know that you aren’t going to sit around and wait for him if he isn’t ready for a relationship. If he can’t make up his mind about you, then let him know that you can’t make up your mind about him either.