It can be really tough to see your ex-girlfriend with someone else. No matter how amicable your breakup was, it can still hurt to see her with someone new.
If you’re struggling to deal with your feelings, here are some tips on how to react when your ex-girlfriend is dating someone else.
She is in a rebound relationship
If your ex-girlfriend is dating someone else and you truly want your ex back, then the first thing you must not do is panic! She is just in a rebound relationship. And, ninety-nine per cent of rebound relationships doesn’t last. So, if you really want to get your ex back, then read on for some sage advice.
First of all your ex-girlfriend is only dating someone else to try and get over you. She may only be doing it to make you jealous. Don’t fall for this. People fall into rebound relationships to avoid dealing with their emotions about their recent break-up. It doesn’t mean she doesn’t love you – she is just using this relationship to help her through this difficult period.
So keep this in mind to comfort you now – your ex-girlfriend is only in this relationship to help her get over you. She doesn’t want to get over you – she’s just confused right now, very emotional and hurting.
It makes no difference if you broke the relationship off or she did. The important thing to remember, if you want to get your ex back, is that this rebound relationship is just a tool and a tool that is showing you that she actually really loves you. It sounds crazy – but it’s true.
So, if you are sure your relationship has a strong foundation of real love, you can save it and get your ex back no matter who she is dating.
Right now, your girlfriend is in a rebound relationship, causing her to focus on what went wrong with your relationship. This is not a bad thing. She will pick someone who is the opposite of you. This is good because she is focusing on the “differences” between the two of you which means that she is still focused on you even while she is with the new guy.
You need to take note of the differences too, because it probably means she is seeking in this new guy something that she feels was missing in your relationship with her. You can use this time to make some changes in yourself that she will notice and appreciate in you.
Don’t interfere with this rebound relationship. After a month or so (and it may not even take that long) she will begin to see what she misses in you, because the new guy is not you and can’t begin to replace you.
Here are a few simple things to keep in mind:
1. Don’t get jealous
Jealousy is only going to make you feel worse. It’s important to remember that your ex-girlfriend is entitled to date whoever she wants and that you have no say in who she chooses to date. Trying not to be jealous is easier said than done, but it’s important to focus on the positive things in your life and the fact that you’re now free to date someone else too.
2. Don’t blame yourself
It’s easy to blame yourself when your ex-girlfriend starts dating someone else. You might think that you didn’t try hard enough to make the relationship work or that you did something to drive her away. But it’s important to remember that breakups happen for a reason and that saving a relationship is not always possible.
3. Don’t try to get revenge
Getting revenge on your ex-girlfriend is only going to make you feel better in the short term. It’s not going to change the fact that she’s dating someone else and it’s not going to make you feel any better in the long-term. If you’re struggling to deal with your feelings, it’s best to talk to someone else about it instead of trying to take revenge.
4. Accept that it’s over
One of the most important things to do when your ex-girlfriend is dating someone else is to accept that the relationship is over. It’s hard to let go, but it’s important to move on with your life. If you’re having trouble accepting that it’s over, it might help to talk to a therapist or counsellor.
5. Focus on your own life
Now that your ex-girlfriend is dating someone else, it’s time to focus on your own life. This is a great opportunity to do what you love and meet new people. Don’t spend all your time thinking about your ex-girlfriend and her new partner. Instead, focus on your own happiness.
Your ex-girlfriend is dating someone else, and it’s important to remember that you have no control over who she chooses to date. Try not to get jealous or blame yourself, and focus on moving on with your life.