The difference between love and infatuation are two words that everyone seems to understand but has no idea what they mean.
If you have ever been infatuated with someone you truly had genuine feelings for, there’s no doubt you understand what it is to be in love. It’s an emotion that burns brightly and causes an internal fire that never seems to go out. Everyone loves to be in love.
But what about the millions of people who claim they are “in love”, and it seems just to burn out as fast as it came? Perhaps this is just an illusion of the mind. Perhaps that beautiful feeling of loving someone is an illusion caused by chemicals in our brains. Maybe it is just a chemical reaction. In any event, there is no way of knowing what love is, but there is a way of finding out what infatuation is.
How Does Infatuation Work?
You might remember from your high school English class that infatuation is just a state of mind that occurs when you are obsessed with someone. Yes, the person is a great catch, but there’s no depth to your feelings. There’s no love. The feeling can become so strong that you’re willing to do anything for the person.
Of course, if you ask, “what can you possibly do for them?” the answer is usually, “I don’t know.” And that’s when infatuation turns into true love. There is a moment when the brain actually creates feelings in the body. At this point, the feeling actually goes beyond the mind. You can’t be rational with this type of love. It just happens.
The point of infatuation is to show affection to a person but not make them your life. You may call them, show up at their house, send flowers, make dinner, or take them shopping. The goal is to spend time with them, show that you like them, and perhaps eventually ask them to be your boyfriend or girlfriend.
Infatuation is the same thing. You can spend time with a person for hours or days. Talk to them constantly, call them when you’re feeling bad, be nice to them, and do all the same things you did when you were in love. You might get a reaction at some point, but not the one you got in love.
It’s difficult to believe that true love can be replaced with something created in the brain, but it is the only explanation for why infatuation and true love can be so easily mistaken.
Differences Between Love and Infatuation
Why is Infatuation a Problem?
As we have already discussed, it’s perfectly natural for love to feel really good. It can be the best feeling in the world if you’re in love. But infatuation is different. It’s not just that you feel great when in love, but it’s the depth to the feeling. It’s an emotion that gives you the feeling that you can do anything for the person you love. And it lasts. If you are in love, it stays with you. Love is something that you feel constantly.
If someone is in love, they’ll say things like, “I can’t live without him or her.” The feeling will keep them in good spirits. The person in love will be happy to see them and will be excited when they meet them. They’ll be sure to see them every chance they get.
But if you are in love and infatuated, you’ll be glad to see them once a week. You’ll want to hang out with them but will also be a little intimidated. You’ll have to hide the fact that you’re in love. The person will ask, “what’s going on?” You’ll feel sad or jealous when you hear about someone that they are in love with, and you’ll feel sad when you hear about someone they are out with. There is a difference between infatuation and love.
Infatuation is often just a way for people to be around someone they find attractive. They don’t actually like them; they just want to be around them. And when you are in love, it feels good to share your feelings with your partner, and it can feel perfect for sharing them with a friend. You feel good about it, and because the feeling is so good, it continues for a long time.
Infatuation takes over so easily that you may be completely clueless about it if you get hurt. Even though the person does things that show them they don’t like you, you may continue to feel the same way. You get excited to see them. You’re sad to find out that they’re seeing someone else. You feel jealous. You’re excited to hang out with them and hate it when they hang out with someone else. You don’t feel bad about being in love; you just hate that they’re in love with someone else.
How do you feel when infatuated?
Infatuation makes the person feel important. It’s more than someone they like. It is an obsession. You’ll constantly find yourself thinking about the person and be in a constant state of sadness when they do something that shows them not to like you.
Infatuation is also often a way to show that you’re a true person. It allows you to show how good you are by making someone else feel special. You can’t help but feel that way when you are in love. It doesn’t matter if you can’t find time to go shopping, cook dinner, or spend any time with your partner. If they need you, you want to do everything in the world for them.
Infatuation is more than just an obsession; you can be obsessed with many things. To be in love, it must be a more powerful force in your life. It has to take over your life. You can’t be rational about it. It must affect everything you do.
Can infatuation turn into love?
Infatuation is a powerful emotion, but it’s not the same as love. Love is based on a foundation of trust and respect, while infatuation is often fueled by an intense physical attraction and unrealistic fantasies.
Over time, infatuation can develop into love. But it takes work and a willingness to see the person you’re with — not just the idea of them — to make it happen.
Here are some signs that your infatuation may be turning into love:
You’re interested in more than just the physical.
When you’re infatuated with someone, you may find yourself fixated on their appearance. But as you get to know them better and start to see them as a three-dimensional human being, you may find yourself attracted to their personality, intelligence, sense of humor, and other qualities.
You’re comfortable being yourself around them.
Infatuation is often based on an idealized version of the other person. But as you get to know them better, you may realize that they’re not perfect. And that’s okay.
If you’re able to be yourself around them — flaws and all — and they’re still interested in you, it’s a good sign that your relationship is moving from infatuation to love.
You’re not afraid to have tough conversations.
When you’re in love, you’re not afraid to have tough conversations. You know that you can disagree on some things and still remain committed to each other.