Are You In A Transitional Relationship?
A transitional relationship is a situation where two individuals have decided to “hang in there” together to resolve their incompatibility.
Transitional relationships occur when a person has left a serious relationship and is not immediately looking for that someone special. In such a relationship, neither of the parties feels the need to change or grow because each is still immature, so neither would likely be happier with someone else.
Sometimes a transitional relationship results from a temporary separation or a partner’s absence. The two people may come back together, or they may not. Either way, the reason for the relationship is to bring together two individuals who need each other.
If you’ve already been in a relationship before, then you know how hard it is to walk away from the person you were with. And even though being single might seem the easiest thing, it doesn’t mean you should rush into anything. Take your time, and try not to jump right back into something that could end badly.
But in the meantime, if they happen upon someone they can get along with reasonably well and can tolerate, they will stay with them until someone better comes along. Thus, the relationship is transitional and “will do” until they find someone else they want to have a special relationship with.
Why would someone be willing to settle for “just” someone when they know there is no hope of the relationship progressing past a certain point? It’s simple… they don’t want to be alone.
Why would a transitional relationship be appealing to anyone?
Because a person might have been involved in a long-term relationship, or one that was of shorter duration but very serious, only to see it end. This particular person wants to be in another serious relationship at some stage, but in the meantime, they certainly don’t want to rush into anything. This “interim” relationship solves the problem for them.
How do you know if you are in a transitional relationship (even if the obvious signs aren’t enough proof)? Here are a few guidelines to show if you are in a transitional relationship. If any of these apply, you’re in one:
1. You’re in it just for intimacy. There is nothing of substance in the relationship. You just like being with them for fun stuff, and then at the end of the “date” you are done with them until the next rendezvous. There are no emotional ties whatsoever.
2. It involves someone you already knew. This could be a friend, a close friend, or even someone you have had a previous relationship with. Again, you are only interested in what you can get out of this particular relationship when you are around them. You have absolutely no desire to follow this through for a significant time.
3. The person you are with now… is just like you. They are also only looking for a transitional relationship. It makes perfect sense to both of you, since now you know exactly what they can expect out of the relationship well in advance; then no one has to get hurt.
4. This person is not really someone you would be proud to introduce to your family or friends. That’s why the details about the relationship, and often, even the existence of the relationship itself, are kept secret. Neither of you wants the attention: especially from family members and close friends.