Dating Tips

Should I ask him how he feels about me?

So should you? Is it really a good idea to be this direct? Are you scared that you might not get the response you are looking for?

Are you scared that it might ruin what you already have with him? It can be really scary even thinking about asking him how he feels about you.

But when you are stuck in a state of confusion where you aren’t sure how he feels towards you, what should you do? Here are some things you must consider…

Hope for the best but prepare yourself for the worst…

If you are planning to ask him the big question then it’s really important that you first prepare yourself for the worst because he could say something which might not please you at all or maybe even something you weren’t expecting.

Now let’s go back to the big question – So should you ask him? Well, I would say asking him isn’t really a good idea. Because the moment you ask him how he feels about you, you are indirectly giving him the power.

What you are really saying is this – I really like you and I hope you like me back too. No matter how tempting it is, you should never be the first one to ask him how he actually feels about you.

When he really has feelings towards you, he will let you know in one way or another…

Here is the thing – A guy will let you know how he feels about you either directly or indirectly if he truly has feelings for you. He will never hold it back even if he is the most, shy person out there.

This doesn’t mean that he will directly come up to you and will tell you how he really feels about you. But his actions will do all the talking…He will –

Spends more time with you – If he likes you, then he will spend more time with you. It’s as simple as that.

If a guy likes you, he will want to spend more time with you. He’ll make an effort to see you more often and to talk to you more often. It’s one of the most basic signs that a guy is into you.

When a guy likes you, spending time with you is something that he’ll make a priority. If he’s always busy and doesn’t have much free time, but he still makes time for you, it’s a good sign that he likes you.

He will try to keep you happy

He will always try to impress you

He will always be there for you

He will call you regularly

He will get jealous if you talk to other guys

These are only a few signs which will make it absolutely clear to you that he has special feelings for you.

And here is the kicker…

Asking him might scare him away…

Men do not like it when women chase them or act needy towards them. Because in their world they take this as a threat to their freedom. If you ask him how he feels about you, he might start thinking one or more of the following questions:

  • Is she already looking for a relationship? I am not even ready for it yet.
  • Why is she trying to rush things?
  • Why is she pushing me to tell her how I feel?
  • What are her expectations?

Therefore you are very likely to get either a confused answer or no answer at all because asking him means you are putting him under immense pressure. And at the same time, you will also convey insecurity and neediness which are very unattractive traits due to which he is very likely to form a negative opinion about you.

Points to remember 

  • If he really likes you, he will make it obvious to you in one way or another and you won’t be confused over the question of whether he likes you or not.
  • If you haven’t seen any signs that indicate that he likes you so far then it’s useless to ask him. It might only worsen an already bad situation.
  • If you have already made the mistake of asking him and he hasn’t given you a clear answer, then he doesn’t really have serious feelings about you. It’s bitter but that’s something you will have to accept.


If you’re wondering whether or not you should ask your crush how he feels about you, the answer is probably yes! It may seem scary, but it’s better to know where you stand than to continue to wonder. Asking him how he feels will also give you an opportunity to gauge his feelings for you. If he’s not ready to talk about his feelings yet, that’s okay too.

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