If you’re dating someone and you like them, but you’re not ready for a relationship, it can be tough to figure out how to tell them.
There are many things that can happen when you are dating someone but you don’t want to label yourself as boyfriend or girlfriend… for example, going to see a movie together, a concert, shopping, out to dinner etc.
You don’t want to hurt their feelings, but you also don’t want to lead them on. It’s a delicate balance, but it is possible to tell someone this without too much damage. Here’s how to do it:
Be honest with yourself first.
Before you can be honest with someone else, you need to be honest with yourself. Ask yourself why you’re not ready for a relationship. Is it because you’re not over your last relationship? Is it because you’re not sure you’re compatible with this person? Is it because you’re not ready to commit? Once you know the reasons why you’re not ready, you’ll be better equipped to explain them to someone else.
Be honest with the other person.
The next step is to be honest with the other person. It’s not going to be easy, but it’s important to be as clear as possible. Tell them that you like dating them but are not ready for a relationship. Let them know your reasons why. If you’re not sure you’re compatible, explain that. If you’re not over your last relationship, let them know. Be as open and honest as you can.
A Simple “I like you but I’m not ready to date you”
There are times when you don’t want to ask someone to be your boyfriend. It doesn’t make you a bad person or a selfish person. It just means that you are not ready for a relationship.
It’s really simple and straightforward. You can say, “I like you and I like being with you. But I’m not ready to date you.”
Or you could use a simpler statement, like, “I like you but I’m not ready to date you yet.” It’s not wrong or disrespectful to say you like someone or that you’d like to date them. It is about how you feel. You may want to include why you’re not ready to date them. For example, you could say:
“I just don’t think I’m ready to date you yet. I know you want me to ask you out. But I don’t want to do that yet. I’m working through some things right now that I think I’ll be ready for next year.”
“I know you like me and we’re friends and we go out a lot. But I think I’m too young to be in a relationship. It’s a bit early for me. I think I’ll be ready for a relationship with you in two years or so.”
“I know you like me. I’m flattered. But it’s just not the right time for us. We’re not ready. I really like spending time with you and I know you like spending time with me. But I’m not ready to date you yet. It’s a great compliment to know you like me. I know I really like spending time with you too. But I’m not ready to date you. I’m really sorry to be direct.”
Don’t make any promises.
When you’re telling someone this, it’s important not to make any promises. Don’t tell them you’ll be ready in a month or two. Don’t tell them that you’ll call them when you’re ready. Just be honest with them and let them know you’re not ready for a relationship.
Give them space.
After you’ve told the other person how you feel, giving them space is important. This doesn’t mean that you need to break off all communication with them. But, it does mean that you shouldn’t be pushing for a relationship. Let them know that you’re still interested in dating, but that you’re not ready for anything serious.
Throughout this entire process, it’s important to be respectful. Don’t be manipulative or try to hurt the other person’s feelings. Be honest, be clear, and be respectful. If you can do all of those things, you should be able to tell someone that you like dating them, but you’re not ready for a relationship without too much damage.