Signs of Domestic Violence
Domestic violence has become a widespread problem worldwide. Intimate partner violence is also classified as domestic violence.
Almost one-third (27%) of women aged 15-49 who have been in a relationship report experiencing some type of physical and/or sexual violence at the hands of their intimate partner.
Often women say that they are not sure how they got into abusive relationships and after realizing their partner’s violent tendencies were unsure of how to leave.
The following are some of the signs of domestic violence. There is no way to know for sure whether the following traits describe you or your partner. If you think you have any of these signs, then you should seek help from your closest friends and relatives, a family doctor or even your parents and your clergy.
If you or your partner is having the following traits, please go to a Crisis Centre (which is always listed in the local telephone book) or call the emergency number on page 10 of this booklet for help.
Growing levels of isolation
Violent partners often isolate these women from their family, friends and sometimes jobs. This makes them completely dependent on the violent partner and with no witness to what is taking place in the home, nobody to show the bruises to.
Emotional abuse is just as it sounds, and it happens more frequently than you may believe. It is characterized by a person’s negative attitude or lack of emotional awareness that is directed toward the other person and has the purpose of controlling that person’s thoughts, actions, and emotions.
Usually, these men use hurtful words and insults to break down a woman’s self-worth and self-esteem. Doing this enhances her feelings that she will be unable to survive or completely incompetent without the relationship.
This includes destroying property, hurting pets and /or using surveillance to keep the woman under constant watch. In relationships, when one partner abuses the other, it causes the other person to feel emotionally hurt and unloved. It is a way for the partner who is being abused to manipulate their partner or partner to do what the abuser wants.
Sexual abuse is defined as any act of sexual coercion or sexual molestation. There are many ways that sexual abuse is displayed, it includes (but is not limited to): false accusations of infidelity tied to terrifying inquisitions, claiming sexual ownership over the partner, forced sexual acts and coercing a partner into unwanted sexual acts.
Sexual abuse is the most prevalent form of abuse in our society. It is also the type of abuse that is least likely to be seen in the media, but that is exactly why we should see sexual abuse more frequently.
Escalating levels of control
This can include things such as giving the woman an allowance and insisting she has receipts to account for every penny, constant monitoring of cell phone call logs and not allowing the female partner to go anywhere in public without a male partner.
If you or someone you know is involved in a relationship that involved domestic violence don’t lose hope. There are many resources and professionals that can help. It is important to reach out to a professional counsellor to get help. These professionals can assist you in creating safety plans while in the home and a detailed exit strategy on how to get out of an abusive relationship.
If your partner exhibits any of the behaviours above but has not physically assaulted you it will be easier to leave before the violence starts. For more detailed information on where to go and what to do check the domestic violence website