As is well known, joining an online dating service is the preferred way of mating and dating for singletons all over the globe. However, what most people are unaware of is that only about 10% of dating site users ever find a long-term partner on their chosen site, and a staggering 70% of members never get a single message from another member. By following the 10 simple steps described here, you too may become one of the 10% of people who discover love and romance online.
1. Choose the right site.
While the growth of online dating has given consumers a multitude of options, you should take a few minutes to consider the kind of companion you’re looking for, as well as the town or city in which you’d like to meet. There are specialised sites catering to particular demographics (single parents, motorcyclists, LGBT people, etc.) and general sites that are open to everyone, just as there are city- or country-specific sites and worldwide ones. Choosing the best site for you is arguably the most critical choice you’ll make when online dating.
2. Choose a great username.
First impressions are lasting, and the online persona you create for yourself is the first thing other members will notice before viewing your profile. ‘Funny’ works, ‘cryptic’ works, and you won’t go far wrong even if you use your actual Christian name; but, if you go down the smutty or sexually suggestive path (as a lot of men tend to do), you’ll discover that other members will avoid you.
3. Upload a photo.
This is critical since many people only check for members who have uploaded a photo; you want to see what other members look like, so it stands to reason that others would feel the same way about you. Even if your single picture isn’t the most attractive, it’s better than no photo at all.
4. Complete your profile.
There’s nothing more off-putting than a profile that screams “I can’t be bothered to do this properly”. If you don’t have time to complete all the categories when you are signing up, then take the time to do so at the earliest opportunity.
5. Be upbeat and positive.
If you’re feeling a little down or lacking in confidence, now isn’t the time to say so when you’re writing a description of yourself. If you come across as confident, happy and full of fun, you’ll get much more attention than if you come across as mono-syllabic or down in the dumps. And remember, humour is a real ice-breaker and a great aphrodisiac.
6. Widen your search criteria.
If you’re just interested in individuals with blonde hair, blue eyes, and a height of 5’4″ to 5’6″, you’ll likely miss out on a lot of other members that you’ll find just as beautiful. To begin, restrict your search to just gender, age, and location.
7. Don’t automatically dismiss people.
If you get a message from someone whose profile you like but who didn’t bother to include a photo, you should still write back and ask them to send a picture to your normal email account. In many cases, this is preferable to just posting a picture online for everyone to see.
8. Use all the features on offer.
More than simply an internal email system is offered by many websites. Some services allow users to send voice messages, while others allow them to flirt and talk in ‘real-time’ with other members. The more you use the features offered to you, the greater the possibility you have of meeting someone special.
9. Be proactive.
Don’t sit around and wait for people to contact you once you’ve registered and filled up your profile. When you see someone who you believe might be a good match for you, write to them and introduce yourself. Don’t simply say, ‘Hello, I like your profile.’ Instead, explain why you wrote to them and highlight the similarities you think you have. A more detailed beginning statement will make a more lasting impact than a brief, terse one.
10. Check back with the site.
Remember to check in at least once a day on the most popular dating sites to see the most recent users so that you may contact anybody you find attractive before others do. Also, keep in mind that on most sites, users who log in often show higher on search results than those who do not, making it simpler for individuals who may be compatible with you to see your profile.
To summarise, online dating isn’t difficult; it simply requires some thinking and effort, and if you follow the 10 principles I’ve described above, your love life will quickly get the jumpstart it needs..